22 January 2015

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Tags: Educators, Parents

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Categories: Saints

Today in the Roman Martyrology, we commemorate St Vincent Pallotti, a Saint much less well-known than the likes of Francis of Assisi or Maria Goretti, but nevertheless has much to offer us for reflection.

In his records the life of Vincent Pallotti, the great English priest and hagiographer Alban Butler makes it a point to first note that the Saint “was not the best student in his early life”. Butler impressed that St Vincent was so hard to teach that a teacher of his once commented that young Vincent was “a little saint, but a bit thick-headed”.

As he grew up, however, Vincent’s studies improved, and he was ordained to the priesthood in 1817 at the age of 23. Vincent then went on and earned a doctorate in theology and philosophy, and became a college professor. Eventually, he gave up the profession in order to dedicate himself more fully to full-time pastoral work. Vincent provided education for labourers and craftsmen in an attempt to give them pride in the quality of their work. He gave these lowly people the dignity that every person deserves.

A funny incident that occured saw Vincent go as far a dressing up as a woman to comfort a sick man who threatened to shoot the next priest that entered his room.

As ecucators – parents but especially teachers – we are bound to experience children with different levels of capability in their studies. We may be tempted to give up on those who seem to struggle with keeping afloat with the rest, but the life of St Vincent Pallotti gives us a much-needed reminder to not throw in the towel with such students. St Vincent turned out to be much more capable and able to learn as he grew. Most importantly, having struggled with his studies and eventually gaining such high qualifications, it’s clear that he always had a heart to learn. Later in his life, he would turn the table around and provide education to those who were less intelligent in the eyes of the world.

Who are you teaching today that is struggling to keep up? What’s your attitude towards him or her?

We will do well to keep in mind that however much they struggle today, the impact you leave on them is likely to have a long-term effect. Will you give up on them, or give them the encouragement they need in their difficult moments?

16 January 2015

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Tags: Educators, Parents

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Categories: Events, News

Behaviour-change specialist Dr Margaret Carter once again afforded us her time and expertise when she held a workshop at the Church of St Ignatius for catechists on children and reverence in Church. During the workshop, Dr Carter discussed behavioural expectations for children, and shared the processed by which children learned how to behave. She exhorted participants — catechists from several parishes in the archdiocese — to support children in developing their mastery of these behaviours, and revealed how parents can also play their part in forming their children’s behaviour positively.

Dr Carter’s workshop on Children and Reverence in church was held on 4 January for catechists in the archdiocese. The workshop, according to participant Cecelia Teo, “opened a door for me to gain greater insight into ways to partner the child in reverence”.

Catherine Ong, a catechist from the Church of St Ignatius, lauded Dr Carter’s engaging presentation: “Dr Carter is a very engaging speaker and the sharing of her knowledge in working with the children on their social behaviour and emotional well-being has been most insightful for me.”

Apart from the workshop for catechists, Dr Carter also ran a Character Building workshop for parents people working with kids, a focus group for principals of our preschools on 29 December 2014, and professional development training for educators, held at the premises of Holy Family Kindergarten, a full-day programme which also included a tour of the Holy Family Kindergarten and Thanksgiving Mass with our Director ad interim, Fr Edward Seah.

30 March 2014

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Tags: Educators, Parents, Students

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Categories: Homilies / Messages, News

My Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

Some of you may have heard or read about the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) on Sexuality posted on the Health Promotion Board (HPB) website.

I want to assure you that our non-public engagement of the opposing groups on this issue is by no means evidence of our flight from our Christian calling to speak the truth and to defend the cause of the family and hence, of society and the future of humanity. My Consultors and I have chosen to take the path of constructive dialogue with the authorities, so as not to inflame the situation further and risk polarizing society.  As in all politically and socially sensitive issues, we believe that the best way forward is for all to calmly and purposefully engage in constructive dialogue in a spirit of patient understanding, mutual respect and compassion, always working towards the promotion of justice and dignity of the individual and for the greater good of society.

Accordingly, we have shared the Church’s concerns with the authorities and they have assured us that the government has not changed its position on the family (comprising heterosexual couples with children) as the indispensable, basic building block of society.  As Church, we will continue to engage and work with the relevant authorities to ensure that the marriage institution and family values are upheld so that our children can be formed in an environment that is holistic, nurturing, caring and loving. We also need to ensure that society does not become too individualistic in pursuing their needs at the expense of the greater good of society. Because the future of Singapore society and humanity at large passes by way of the family, every Catholic should endeavor to save and foster the values and requirements of the family.  This call is urgent and important because if the family is destroyed, then our society would become fragmented.

That said, I am also aware that some of our faithful are confused and are struggling to come to terms with their own sexuality, or that of their loved ones.  I wish to take this opportunity to assure you that the Church feels with you and views every individual as unique and precious in the eyes of God, regardless of his/her sexual inclination or state of life.  However, the Church’s position on the matter of LGBT relationships has always been consistent; that sexual activity outside of a heterosexual relationship is not in accordance with the laws of creation because such acts are not open to new life.  It is in this spirit of compassion that I am exploring the setting up of support groups to assist those who are struggling with same sex attraction and their loved ones who have difficulty accepting them.

Finally, I urge you, my dear faithful, to continue to pray with me for all those who are confused, fearful and struggling with their sexuality, that the Lord will guide, protect and strengthen them, especially in their most vulnerable moments and bring them healing and peace of mind. May the Lord, who created all things and proclaimed that ‘it is good’, renew the face of the earth.

 

+ Archbishop William Goh

1 August 2013

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Tags: Educators, Parents, Students

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Categories: Homilies / Messages

The following is an extract from the CMECS (Civics and Moral Education for Catholic Schools): Foundations for Sexuality Education Programme, created by the Family Life Society (FLS) in collaboration with ACCS.

 

The prevalent perspective on sexuality says “I am free to do what I want (with my body) provided I don’t hurt anyone” and “My body belongs to me (just like my handphone, my clothes, my computer, etc…)”. But this is not true for at least four reasons:

  1.  My body is me and I am my body: “Me” and “My Body” are like two layers of a rolled cake and they cannot be separated without breaking the entire cake. Neither of the two layers is closer to the core, the most intimate “me”, as they are wrapped together all the way to the centre. Ultimately, accessing the most intimate parts of my body means accessing the most intimate part of me. The intimacy of the body is the intimacy of the person. Saying ” our relationship is just physical” makes no sense.
  2. My body communicates with a language I cannot change: sex is always personal. The idea of separating intimacy of the body from intimacy of the person is floored also on another account: the body communicates with a language which is independent of our intentions, of our culture or social norms. Even if I said: “With this slap I meant to tell you “I love you”; the message received by the slapped cheek would not be one of love. Our body speaks for us with its own unchangeable language.
  3. What is personal must never be “used”: the sexual aspect of the body is always personal and intimate and communicates a personal and intimate union and must never be used as a means to other ends (i.e. sex for grades, prostitution);
  4. My decisions make me: my decisions not only change the world outside me but also change something in me that shape my character and the kind of persons I become.

Education is more than information about facts and consequences. To educate is to accompany persons in their development by providing skills to become better persons.

 

The full CMECS programme on Foundations for Sexuality Education for use with Sec 3 students can be obtained from ACCS. Workshops for teacher are also available (free of charge) at ACCS or in schools by mutual arrangement. Contact us for more details.

10 January 2011

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Tags: Educators, Parents, Students

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Categories: Homilies / Messages, News

Dear Principals, Vice-Principals and Heads of Department in our Catholic Schools,

Greetings for the New Year! My prayers and blessings on all of you as you begin a new academic year.

On the occasion of the World Day for Peace on January 1st our Pope Benedict has dedicated his message to peace which he connects closely to religious freedom. He says “The right to religious freedom is rooted in the very dignity of the human person, whose transcendent nature must not be ignored or overlooked. God created man and woman in his own image and likeness (cf. Gen 1:27). For this reason each person is endowed with the sacred right to a full life, also from a spiritual standpoint. Without the acknowledgement of his spiritual being, without openness to the transcendent, the human person withdraws within himself, fails to find answers to the heart’s deepest questions about life’s meaning, fails to appropriate lasting ethical values and principles, and fails even to experience authentic freedom and to build a just society.”

I would like to reiterate with the Pope, the importance of the Spiritual and Ethical dimensions of human life and the importance of religious freedom which is to be exercised appropriately. As we begin a new school year I pray that all our Catholic Schools remember that we have a duty and a right to nurture our Catholic identity for the benefit of all our students.

Many of you have requested that the Catholic Church teachings be clarified in the area of Pre-Marital Sex and Contraception in the context of the sexuality programmes that are taught in our schools.

Firstly, we acknowledge that we live in a secular society where no specific religious group has the right to impose its beliefs on others. Within the context of our Catholic Schools however I would find it unacceptable if students were given a compromised message on pre-marital sex. This applies to all students in the school.

Secondly, we are very concerned with the increasing incidence of sexually transmitted infections among students caused by young people indulging in sexual activity with multiple partners. We would like to collaborate with the Health Promotion Board to do whatever is best for our young people in this regard.

We are convinced that the solution to our problems is not to compromise but to remain faithful to what has been proven beneficial to the human person and supports the dignity and sacredness of human love and life. As you have asked for a statement on the Church’s teachings I have prepared some paragraphs below for you to study and apply in sexuality education programmes that are to be delivered in our schools.

The Church’s official teaching

The official teaching of the church regarding sexual intercourse (the marital act) and contraception has been consistently taught both in the tradition and in the official Magisterium of the church.

Pius XI in 1930 wrote in the encyclical Casti Connubi: “any use whatsoever of matrimony exercised in such a way that the act is deliberately frustrated in its natural power to generate life is an offense against the law of God and of nature, and those who indulge in such are branded with the guilt of a grave sin.” (CC 56). 

At the time, this teaching was simply unquestioned and accepted by a church and culture that appreciated the value of fertility and offspring. The “sexual revolution” of the 60’s sought to question traditional sexual values and behavior while the invention of oral contraceptives made some theologians raise new questions on the traditional teaching of the church regarding contraception.

After much debate, in 1968 in the after-math of the Second Vatican Council, Pope Paul VI published the encyclical Humanae Vitae reiterating the previous position of the church: “The Church… teaches that each and every marital act must of necessity retain its intrinsic relationship to the procreation of human life.” (HV 11) In another place it reads “every action which… proposes whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible is intrinsically evil” (HV14). 

This teaching has been reaffirmed by John Paul II in his Apostolic Exhortation of 1981,Familiaris Consortio and offered to the faithful in the teachings of the ‘Catechism of the Catholic church’ as follows: “the two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple’s spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family” (CCC 2362).

Two things we should stress from these texts: First, there is no mention of any particular means of contraception, since what is at stake is not the method used or whether this method is natural or artificial. What is at stake is the moral act of contraception. Thus, whether the choice to contracept is done through the use of condoms, oral hormones, behavior (such as the “so called” withdrawal method) or simply a general attitude or mentality against the conception of a child, what spouses choose to do is to render their marital life sterile.

A second point we need to stress is this teaching concerns marital acts, since marital acts are the only ethical sexual acts in the eyes of the church. The teaching of the church is concerned with the faithful preservation of the teachings of Jesus Christ and its application in different times and places to assist Christians to lead lives consistent with their status as children of God.

If we present to our young people how to use the condom outside marriage, just in case you need it, it would be as though the church is teaching us how to sin less grievously which makes no sense. Thus, we do not find official teachings of the church on the uses of contraceptives in extramarital or homosexual sex.

So far, we have sought to clarify the stand of the church regarding contraception. The question remains though whether it would be better to use contraceptives in cases of unethical sexual intercourse for the sake of preventing a contagion of diseases. There is no official teaching of the church on this point and we are left to the discussion of theologians and other authorities on this point.

The use of condoms
First of all, we must note that condoms, even if invented or commonly used to prevent the transmission of life, are now also used to prevent the transmission of death. Condoms in that sense would not be primarily an instrument of contraception but an instrument of prevention of the spread of a disease. In fact, condoms, when used in homosexual acts, cannot be contraceptive at all, since the homosexual act is never a conceptive act in the first place.

So, even when extra-marital sex is intrinsically wrong, wouldn’t it be better that these wrong acts, would be rendered “less irresponsible and dangerous” by protecting the participants of the sexual act with a condom? Bishop Anthony Fisher, Australian Bishop and a member of the Pontifical Academy for Life, thinks so: “Whether and when condoms are effective for preventing disease transmission is complex (…). But prima facie, while extra-marital intercourse is always wrong because it is unchaste, the intention of reducing the danger to health by wearing a condom is a good one and the actual act is indifferent.”

However, his argument does not conclude there. He continues: “On the other hand, insofar as using a condom lends a true – or, more likely, false – sense of security to sexual activity it may make the user more likely to engage in wrongful intercourse and so condomizing intercourse can aggravate the wrong. As such, the activity becomes habitual it further clouds people’s understanding of sexuality, and accustoms them to ways of thinking and relating that will make it more difficult for them ever to enter profoundly into marital communion.  Condoms may be ‘safer’ but they certainly do nothing for people’s chastity!” [Anthony Fisher, Cooperation, Condoms and HIV (Henkels Lecture for Bioethics Symposium on Moral Conviction vs Political Pressure, Institute of Bioethics at Franciscan University of Steubenville, Ohio USA)]

Some theologians argue that if contraception is wrong in itself, couples who engage in the sexual act outside marriage, when they use contraceptives are in fact adding a new wrong to their already wrong act of extra-marital sex.

Another debated issue is whether married couples could use condoms if one partner is infected with the HIV virus. Cardinals and other ecclesiastical authorities have defended condom use by married couples to prevent transmission of HIV. Examples of these are Carlo Cardinal Martini, Cardinal Javier Lozano Barragán, former president of the Pontifical Council for Health Care Workers, Cardinal Danneels of Belgium and George Cottier, O.P., former theologian to John Paul II.

The opposite opinion is also held that such acts would not be true marital acts, since they would prevent the act from being fully a sexual marital act because it precisely prevents its consummation.

Recently, in the book-interview “Light of the World”, the Pope made some comments regarding the seemingly responsible use of condoms by male prostitutes. The Press understood this as an exception to the normal policy of the church against condoms and a possible change of vision in the church’s doctrine on contraception. The Press has spread this message far and wide, without much clarity.

The statement of Benedict XVI commenting on the special case of “male prostitutes” is not one more opinion on either side, but a deeper statement. He sees in the undeniably good intention of the prostitute a “movement towards the good” even within the wrongness of the act. The statement of the Pope goes beyond the individualistic morality of the case per se towards a more holistic approach.

Conclusion
I am deeply grateful to all of you for your care of the young and their moral and spiritual development as well as their intellectual and physical growth. My prayers accompany all your efforts.

Let us have the courage of our convictions and bring true education and values into sexuality and all other subjects and aspects of school life.

 

Your brother and friend,
+Archbishop Nicholas Chia
10 January 2011